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No doubt that there are hundreds of synonyms for the word ‘reevaluate’ (amend, rearrange, reassess, correct, revise, rethink).  Yet, there are not nearly as many events that will make you act on it.  The majority of lives are led by routine, unchanged for years on years.  For some people, this is more than acceptable.  To some, however, far past unsatisfactory.

Things happen in life.  We all know that; that’s what life is; nothing but a series of things happening.  Some things happen as a direct cause of other things happening; most things actually.  Cause and effect – the philosophical concept of ‘Causality’; where one event is believed to be the cause of a second…and so on and so on.  A concept that dates back millennia in Western philosophy to the days of Aristotle.  While intangible, it’s a nearly proven fact that things just don’t happen out of thin air; most reactions happen by influence .  Good or bad, most we can’t explain, but it doesn’t stop them from happening.  Not many of these ‘things’, however, are arduous enough to make us reevaluate our choices in life.  When meaningful events take place, we will think about the effects for awhile, consider change, and then go back to our normal routines, convincing ourselves nothing is needed.

On the other hand, there are once in a lifetime events that can expose themselves at random.  When these life changing events do happen, they are quite noticeable.  Hard to ignore.  Sometimes they leave us with no choice but to comply with their demands.  Forced change is difficult for some, necessary for others, and unwanted by most.  It is important that we learn to embrace and understand the need for change.  Perhaps more so though, is that we try to understand how this change came to be.

Have you ever stopped to recall your past?  The people you’ve met, the places you’ve been, the conversations you’ve had, the intimate relationships you’ve shared?  How did these effect you?  Were you swayed in anyway because of an idea or concept that someone introduced to you?  Did you have a chance encounter with a stranger that left you wondering about the bigger picture?  Chances are, you have – actually I’d guarantee that.  Especially those of us at a young age, where we’re inherently impressionable beings.  I’ve had the opportunity (fortunate or unfortunate) to experience a dramatic amount of change within the last year or two.  It was change that I didn’t want, but I desperately needed.  It was change that brought me a lot of grief and emotional distraught, but it was also change that helped mold me into a better person.  I had become stagnant, content with what I didn’t know.  Now that the dust has settled I can see how detrimental that contentment would have become.

You see, there are many people that don’t realize that change is absolutely necessary for growth.  In fact, change, for better or for worse, is the only true constant in life.  Embracing only the current is a sure way to deny yourself a future.  The more change is incorporated into life, the more life can benefit from change.  That’s not to say that change has to include distance.  It’s possible that people can change, and grow together; but it takes an open mind.  It takes mutual understanding and a collective sincerity.  The worst thing you can do is say something and not mean it.

There are certain events that take place that ignite exclusive, and absolute feelings within people.  These feelings lead to thoughts and ideas, which in turn lead to behavior or actions; which, in the future, begin new events.  It’s a big circle; 360 degrees of emotion and 4 pi steradians worth of expression; and it only takes a couple seconds.  This is life at it’s slowest.  Rarely do we see the change taking effect.  People come and go, or often stay, in our lives for a reason; it’s up to us to decide how we grow with each experience.  Some encounters may be simple, and others may be complicated, but more often than not it’s the feelings we struggle with most that hold true importance.  Pursue what you love, learn to embrace change, and do your best to notice the gravity in the trivial.

Winter 2010